Support Your Fellow Writers7:00 AM
It feels like lately I've seen a lot of 'Things You Shouldn't Say To A Writer' or 'Things You Should Say To A Writer' or 'How to Support/Care for Writers' type posts. And those are all hilarious, and some of my favorites to read, because they're absolutely true!
It's so important to not say/definitely say certain things to writers, and to know how to approach us. We're, um, special people, after all. A little crazy and a little insecure and all that good stuff. One thing I love about being a writer is how tight-knit the community is, and how much we love and support each other. That being said, I'm going to talk a little bit now about how we as writers should treat our fellow scribbly people!
This is a super important one. I know it's hard for me, because I'm a chatty person - I'll shove my story and characters and writing thoughts down the throats of anyone who will listen, and it's especially wonderful when I find writerly people who get it. But sometimes it's a good thing to stop talking, sit back, and let the other writer talk about their stuff a little - we're all super passionate about our projects, and that's a good thing, but you shouldn't spend all your conversations talking about your own stuff! Take the time to listen to and appreciate what the other writer has to say. You might just learn something!
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2. Respect Their Opinions/Stories/Characters/Ideas
Us writers tend to have very strong opinions. Which is a good thing! We have opinions on what should and shouldn't be written, and the kinds of characters that need to be written more or differently or not as much, and so on. The only trouble comes when you shame other writers for writing things you might not agree with/think are stupid - that's not cool. Just don't do it! You don't have to agree with everything, but you can also just smile and nod and accept their opinions for what it is.
|But we all are, so it's okay.|
Okay, it sounds silly, but it's totally important. Take the time to listen to those stories and ideas, like I said above, and appreciate them! Really, the best feeling in the world is when someone has a fangirl moment over something you've written. You don't have to fake it, obviously, but you can find something in their writing that excites you/makes you happy/makes you feel things, right? LET THEM KNOW. We're insecure creatures and this is super important.
|An accurate representation of fangirling.|
4. Give Good Critique (when they ask for it!)
Don't force critique on people, whatever you do. If they specify that they want help or feedback, give it to them, politely! Good critiques point out not just the awkward bits that don't flow, but the good bits, too. I'm not an expert on this, but there's an excellent Go Teen Writers post here on how to be a good critique partner, so I'll let you check that out. But seriously, we really appreciate when you take the time to look over our work and help us out.
|See? Helpful critique.|
5. Be friendly/interact/comment on blogs/etc
No one likes a writer who just babbles about their own projects and characters. Interact with your fellow writers! Find a bunch of blogs by people like you to comment on and enjoy. Listen. Take the time to read your writerly friends' works. Talk about something other than yourself sometimes. Spread the love! Writers are good at being weird and tight-knit together - help keep it that way!
|Except you should totally invite everyone.|
Now, this isn't an exhaustive list by any means. There are lots of ways us writers can help each other out, but those are the main things that come to my mind right now. So what about you? How do you think writers can help and support and love on each other? Comment away.