How To Care for Your ESTP - A Helpful Guide7:00 AM
And so the Myers-Briggs posts return.
I don't know if you people have noticed this, but we ESTPs are kind of rare here in the land of Internet. Scrolling through my Pinterest feed (as I always am) I see INTJ posts, INFJ posts, ENFP posts, INTP posts, lotssss of Myers-Briggs posts. But there's almost nothing specifically about ESTPs, and very very little that portrays us as anything other than reckless partiers who are always off skydiving or something.
Okay, some of that might be true. We like risks. We like having fun. We're loud people. (I'm ESTP, in case you hadn't figured that out by now.) But we have way more layers than that, and since you can't find a lot of accurate information about us on the internet, I've decided to provide this handy guide for people who might not know how to treat their real-life ESTP acquaintances based off what they've seen online. Some of this is serious and some of it is sarcastic, but that's just how I roll.
(If you're not familiar with Myers-Briggs, start here. If you're familiar with Myers-Briggs but not ESTPs specifically, you can read allll about us here.)
1. Let us be practical.
Something you might not know about us is that we're extremely practical. Super practical. Practical, in this case, does NOT mean strict. ESTPs are, like, the opposite of strict. We're fun people. We like having fun. But we don't daydream. When I see a problem, I'm immediately looking for the easiest way to solve the problem. When I'm given an assignment, I'm immediately looking for the straightest line to finishing the assignment. We think in straight lines, one thing at a time. It's logic and practicality over daydreaming pretty much every single time. The easiest, most straightforward way to do something is the way to go.
So, let us be that way. Listen to us when we offer solutions. It may not be pretty, but it's probably flat-out the simplest and most direct thing.
2. We're not heartless. (well, not totally.)
You may have noticed the T in ESTP. T, as in thinking, which means we're on the side of things that tends to use facts and logic more than relying on our emotions. As a result, ESTPs can have the tendency to seem cold. Heartless. Brutually logical, at the expense of the feelings of others.
We're basically that 'heartless' character in the movie.
3. We really, really like being around people.
We're extroverts. Not always wild partiers, but definitely extroverts. And the thing about extroverts that introverts tend not to recognize is that....in the same way introverts energize by themselves, we energize with people. We like people.
Not necessarily all the individuals and their - gasp - feelings, but being around people. Staying at home all day makes us fidgety. We like to talk and we like to hang out. Let us do that. Do not put down extroverts for liking to be around people and interact and talk a lot. And if the party gets wild, so be it. The whole risk-thing is totally true in some ways.
4. We're very blunt.
ESTPs are practical and very, very blunt. This is sometimes a good thing. This is also sometimes a bad thing.
We say the stuff that needs to be said, without worrying about stepping on feelings. (Again, this can be a flaw that we need to work on, so it's not an excuse for saying whatever.) We point things out. We're not subtle, nor do we like people trying to be subtle. Just...get it out there. And don't take offense when we say stuff; it makes sense to us to say it.
|I just caught up on all 10 1/2 seasons of Bones so forgive me if I get emotional.|
5. We have issues, too.
As I've said before, ESTPs have the internet reputation of being thrill-seeking partiers all the time. Perhaps we're more inclined to that than a lot of the people who lurk on the internet (look who's talking), but that doesn't mean we don't have problems. We have emotional problems. We have anxiety and depression and OCD and social anxiety, of all things, and anything else you could think of. This is something that drives me crazy, so I'll say it again: Extroverts can have problems too.
I suppose that's it. Hopefully, you now feel more equipped to deal with those weird reckless ESTP people in your life. I'm sure you'll get more later -- I want to get back into the Myers-Briggs posts this upcoming year. Would that be cool?
Do you know your Myers-Briggs type? If you don't...why the heck not?